There's a natural tendency many of us have to be cool. Not in the high school popular kid way but in a more literal sense of the word. Calm, collected, "chill". It's a nice compliment to get. You're chill. In some ways, it says a lot of positives about you. Your external image doesn't appear to be too bothered by things. You seem to handle things well. You're in control.
But it's often a facade. At least for me. Or only an external image that I subconsciously project. In many cases, I'm the exact opposite of these descriptions but no one seems to think so. Which makes me wonder is it better to appear cool or to be as visibly uncool as you really are?
Self-control is important. Being able to hide your emotions from the world is useful as well. In high-pressure situations, you want to appear calm. In situations where you're being angered, not showing it is sometimes best.
But it brings me back to a topic I've written a lot about recently. And that's honesty. How much honesty is best? What if in this reasonable quest to project a calm image you've accidentally taken it too far? What if so few people can tell how you really feel that no one seems to really know you? Do you dial back the coolness and be more honest?
I'm not sure what's the answer. But lately, I've been leaning towards being more honest. I'd rather be uncool than too cool.